First Experiences - 1982 -1989

One of the things I left out on the last page was my involvement with the Rocky Horror Picture Show.  Even though I joined the Navy, I was still a dedicated RHPS fan.  Even to this day I am a fan.  At about age 16 I was introduced to the show and loved it.  Would go every Friday and Saturday night to see the show and perhaps even play a part in it with the cast who would perform it live while the show was playing on the screen behind them.  Shortly before it was time to leave for boot camp,  The cast's Magenta and her friend came home with me after the show and needless to say it would be a night to remember.  Both were attractive women and we were young and full of lust so sex was definitely in the picture of things..  But my first experience with bondage in the surrounding of sex was also to take place that night.  As that night went on... I eventually found myself cuffed to the bed as Magenta would tease me and fuck me through out the night.  And incredible experience that would be tucked away in my mind to relish throughout my life.  But not understand BDSM at the time and it never smacking me in the face of the numerous power exchanges taking place in the movie and how I loved every one of them, I of course went on as your typical normal male looking for Mrs. Right.. so I could settle down to have 2.5 kids.. a home... a business etc.. and the dream of retiring at 30.  It makes me laugh today in looking back.

Of course I went to boot camp, did my time in the Navy and came out two years later.  In looking at the Navy afterwards.. I realize how much I enjoyed boot camp and realize it was a control thing for me.  I enjoyed the strict discipline that boot camp provided as well as the structured environment.  It was one constant endorphin rush in some ways..  we were worked hard and always rewarded for our efforts.  Very d/s in every sense of their meanings.  But still I was too stupid to realize these things at that time.  The fact was I enjoyed boot camp more than any other part of my service.  Crazy.. maybe.. But I think it says allot about myself and about military people in general.  After my hitch in the Navy, I returned home to Virginia and worked various odd jobs trying to find my niche that I enjoyed.  Some how some way I ended up in Security.  Between roughly 1984 and 1989,  I got married had a child, worked for several different security firms until I owned my own firm in 1987 and ended up separated in 1989.  Things that I note most about this time frame are about my relationships and business.  My wife was very submissive and I of course took on the role of the dominant in the home.  Even though we did not use those terms..  I was the "man" and she was the "woman"  Mom's women's lib went out the door.  Not that these roles were required.. we seemed to just fall into them naturally.  My wife saw that dinner was ready.. served my coffee etc... like any good submissive would.  But again we were not embracing titles.  My business, I was "in power"  and too young for all of it.  But I did well over all.  But even that came to an end around 1989.  At which time I lost both a business, my wife and my mind.. I did get my mind back though.  One out of three is not to bad.  It was in this I learned some valuable lessons.  Little did I know things were gonna change for me in ways I had never imagined over next few years and that finally what I was so blind too, I would begin to see.