BDSM SCENES - TAKE ONE

AND ACTION..... Here we go into the world of bdsm and the scenes we love so much.  What a beautiful thing it is, creating the suspense, the thrill, the adrenaline and endorphins reeling like the film in a projector.  Here we are the actors, directors, producers and critics expressing  the deepest levels of ourselves.   I love to play, there is nothing more exhilarating to me.   A bdsm scene can be categorized much like a movie.  They can range from a good mystery thriller to a comedy, what ever you want it to be.  Most scenes are done to the back drop of music.  Music can be a excellent tool in guiding one through a scene.  The swing of a flogger and striking in unison with the beat of the music and changing with the mood of the music that's playing.   I love using whips and floggers and love the feel of them as well.  I believe that when you have to opportunity to play you should it is the best way to bond with yourself and as well as others. And if your in a relationship what better way to strengthen a bond between you.

But my beliefs about bdsm and scenes go much deeper.  BDSM and d/s are separate identities however they are codependent on one another.  I don't know of any d/s relationship existing without at least some form of discipline even if it is only self discipline and I don't know of any bdsm scene that does not include some form of power exchange. No matter how you look at it, BDSM is not just about play, but also about getting in touch with our deepest emotions, that inner self that would other wise lay dormant, unexplored and allowing it to surface and be known, felt and embraced as a part of our existence.  It is in doing this, we find growth on levels we never had thought imaginable and we are able to drop our barriers and be one with the scene and the person we are interacting with.  This is the greatest gift we can give to ourselves and share with others.  And as we enjoy all the pleasures a bdsm scene brings us, lets keep in mind that the intensity of a scene is not so much as important as what the people experiencing the scene gain from it.  What might be considered intense or heavy play by one person may be very mild to others or vice versa and that's okay.  In addition, not all of us play the same way, with the exact same tools or in the same settings.  What is important is what we gain from our bdsm scene and where it takes us within ourselves.  There are many different kinds of play, from bondage, floggings, waxing to piercing, electricity, and invasive play such as catheters and sounds.  Not every type of play is enjoyed by each person, because tastes, desires and limits can be different for each individual.  Though personal preferences in play may be different, it's not our place to judge others because of their play styles or areas of interest. 

I often find that by watching others play whether it's an area of my interest or not, I learn something new.  Keep an open mind, as you journey and don't be afraid to try or at least watch something new even if it's something you know you could never do. It's the best advice I can give you.  A simple example of why I say this is in the first years of my playing I always swore I would never use a single tail on any one and I would be damned if I would ever let anyone use one on me.  I saw some scenes with the single tail.. saw skin broken with the whip and I just reconfirmed it to myself and why because I was afraid of it, I thought it was to extreme.  So I closed my mind to it completely.  A few years later  I bottomed in a scene to a mistress in a scene and she was using floggers, I was in heaven it felt so wonderful and then she asked me if I would like to feel her single tail.. well I was so into the scene she could have hit me with her car and I'd have been happy so I just agreed and so she did and let me tell it was the most incredible thing I had ever felt and I didn't want her to stop.  A lessoned learned.  This will not always be the case for everyone, but an open mind says anything is possible.

As with anything I write these are based on my experiences and views and not meant to offend anyone or dictate to them how they should live.  Take what it is useful and leave the rest.